37% of Malaysians fake their orgasms according to Durex survey

Any of y’all fake your O’s when you’re going at it with your partner? Not this writer, cuz he’s not getting any action.

But according to the Pleasure Gap survey done by Durex Malaysia (we wanted to make a joke here but we didn’t know where to fit it in), half of the young adults they interviewed thought that orgasms weren’t even possible during sex, and 37% of them admitted to faking their reactions for their partner.

While that might sound funny on the surface, there’s actually a deeper (tee hee) underlying issue – the survey found that…

 

Most Malaysian couples aren’t very honest when it comes to seggs

…and that’s not very healthy for relationships in the long run, cuz real talk, sex is quite a big part of relationships, and so is being able to talk about it with your partner openly. Other than the fake orgasms thing, the survey revealed that:

• 44% of respondents admitted to feeling pressured into intimacy
• 25% of them didn’t speak up when they felt discomfort, and
• 42% of young adults didn’t feel comfortable talking about their needs with their partner

Being able to speak frankly about sexual needs, according to Durex, has been shown to help iron out issues even outside of sex, strengthen connections between partners, and increase their overall health. Yeah, who knew being honest with your partner was a good thing, huh?

Well, this new card game called A-Z of Pleasure might just help with that. It’s made by Durex (who does this sort of thing a lot, by the way) and nine contributors across Malaysia and Singapore, including sexologist Andrea Koh, sexuality counselor Chan Fun Shin, and sex-positive content creators like Arwind Kumar and Daphne Iking.

The game comes with 52 cards – two cards from each letter from the alphabet – consisting of Learn cards and Play cards. Here’s how it works:

• Each player starts with the Learn and Play deck respectively
• When the game starts, each player reveals the card on the top of their deck at the same time
• If the cards have the same letter or color, the first player who shouts “cheeks!” wins the pair of cards
• First to five matching pairs of cards wins

After that, the winner can choose three of the matching pairs of cards to try out with the other player. We don’t wanna spoil the fun, but the cards involve ropes, blindfolds, and chocolates. Check out the game here and use y’alls imaginations lah.

Right, sounds fun and that, but how’s a card game supposed to help?

 

The game can make it easier for couples to open up about their needs

From this writer’s personal experience, we Malaysians aren’t even comfortable with talking about periods, regular ol’ bedroom needs. Maybe the real kinky side of sex is just… communication, even for the vanilla stuff. One of the co-creators of the game echoes the sentiment:

“Sex is a misunderstood topic. Couples are shy to talk about it and don’t explore enough about pleasure together.” – Andrea Koh, Malaysian sexologist

Introducing the element of play via a card game is supposed to be a great way to break down these walls and help couples talk about their desires, boundaries, kinks and such. Anywho, if y’all wanna play the game, toksah get the physical copy, can just download and play here. Maybe it’ll also help you blow… out your partner’s back, who knows.